The actor discussed her experience in her new book, which she described as “spoiled.” Are you strong on something?, Where they talked about the couple’s journey of surrogate motherhood and the arrival of their daughter Kavia James Union-Wade in 2018.
Excerpt from published book Time Newspaper, The union explained, when Wade, 39, welcomed his son Xavier hari a Wade when he broke up with Aja Meteor in 2013, he was “not in a good place.”
“In 2013, before we got married, Duane had a baby with another woman. It must be said that we were not in a good place at the time we conceived the baby,” the union recalled. To say I am devastated is to choose a word on the lower shelves for convenience.
Despite her destruction, The Bring it on The star admitted that there were countless people who were upset by her decision not to talk about the birth of her husband’s son, explaining that the union had “no words.”
“There are strangers I have never met – I’m upset that I haven’t talked about that trauma in the past. I don’t have words, and I’m not sure I have them now, even after untold amounts of treatment,” he wrote.
In an emotional piece, the union said she suffered “eight or nine” miscarriages and had previously opened up about her adenomyosis diagnosis, then reflected on her husband’s ability to have a baby with another woman to increase her chances of carrying the baby by 30 percent Struggled.
According to the union, Wade encouraged her not to try drugs, and the actor recalled the former NBA star saying, “You’ve done enough.”
However, instead of appeasing her, the union said her husband’s words “sounded like an acknowledgment of failure.”
Because at the time I was selling my soul to get out of the cycle of endless loss. What is the rate of going to spirits? However, what is my value? The experience of having a baby with Dwyane so easily – when I couldn’t – my soul was not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattered in the air, ”she wrote.
Euron recalled how her feelings about rent motherhood were influenced by her husband’s feelings that she should “let Dwane go” if she did not “submit to surrogate motherhood”.
“Even though he didn’t want to, I had to let him find a man who would give him what he needed,” she wrote at the time.
Although the union finally decided to stay with Wade, who has been married since 2014, she accepted that she might not make the same decision today, out of love, forgiveness and “fear of public humiliation.”
However, according to the union, she identifies the moment as a critical factor in their relationship, which she noted may have influenced her to make her the person she is today.
“But I loved him. Every day, he was working to forgive, and I chose to do so. And part of this journey of making peace with our love is making peace with us. “- I wouldn’t be with him today, but would I be the person I am now without that pain?” I remember a small voice in my heart telling me to leave, but the fear of public humiliation was so great that I did not take my own advice.
Eventually the couple pursued surrogate motherhood In March 2018, she recalls the moment she received positive pregnancy tests and conflicting feelings of sadness She suffered during the first ultrasound.
Although the union has not previously talked about the birth of her husband’s son, now at the age of seven, the basketball star has previously described the moment she had to tell the actor about her pregnancy. ESPN Documentary De Wade: Life is unpredictable.
“One of the most difficult things I have to do is tell Gabriel the union that I have a child with someone else,” he said in a 2020 documentary. “I couldn’t sleep. I wasn’t eating.”
However, he noted: “I and Gabe went through something you never wanted to go through and we still got out of it.”
Kavia, two, and Xavier, along with seven, are married to the couple Jair, 19, and Jaya, 13, Wade’s children from a previous marriage, and a basketball star’s adopted nephew Dahvian, 19.